Also, how can they break up our marriage and send my wife to a nursing home? Peg had a stroke 10-10-10 and I have been taking care of her for four and one half years with great results Its a long story and I need some guidance. We are both 79 and are in good health considering. Peg and I are both Illinois residence all our lives and vote. Now we need the help of the state. We can't afford big time lawyers we worked all our lives and did what was to be done and had our retirement in front of us and now I can only visit her four hours a day. Please Answer.