The POA took a salary. When will it stop?
A salary was never specified in the documents my mom prepared before her stroke. My mom was organized, and had prepared these documents in case. They proved necessary, as she had a stroke almost 6 years ago. She named my oldest sister the POA. I'll call her "S". There are 4 of us girls. That just made sense since "S" was the oldest and lived closest. Although my mom is in a 24 hour/7 day a week nursing facility, the POA ("S") asked my 2nd oldest sister, ("D"), if she could receive a salary for her time. We were all distraught and of course "D" was happy that "S" was close in distance to be able to help my mom, and so of course said yes. The third oldest sister, ("L"), and me ("B"), were never consulted, so now "S" has been taking a salary for almost 6 years. "S" claims that maybe she hasn't been taking it the whole time, or maybe she just takes it when she needs it, but we have NO visibility and are left frustrated. My mom has a sizable estate, and we have NO idea what "S" has been doing. "D" and "B" (me) have been asking for copies of the financial records for months, maybe years. We know for a fact that my mom has listed all 4 of us as equal beneficiaries in her will, but we're afraid that "S" is decimating the estate, and using the funds however she sees fit, rather than discussing them with us. "S" is angry that we are even discussing money since my mom is still alive. She feels that we care more about the money than about my mom which is ludicrous. "S" is probably being responsible, but don't we have a right to know what is going on since we are beneficiaries of the estate? Since "S" won't share any of the financials, it gives us the impression that she is hiding something. What do we do?