We have 3 children that are older adults now, and they have grand kids. They always respected us in the past, even though my husband is their step-father, after they were long out of the house.
Now they ignore us, never visit or offer to help us with anything since my husband is quite ill with many health issues, including Alzheimer's, early stage.
If they have party's most times, we aren't invited. We have always been good to them, and their grandchildren. I think that they all have some sort of a mental problem that doesn't show itself until maturity.
People that know us and how the children were raised can't believe we are being treated this way. The children will call occasionally, but never visit. We ask them to come visit, but they don't . . . They used to come visit all the time,and come to Sunday dinners I would prepare. Since I stopped the Sunday dinners do to the expense of food, and my husband not feeling well. . . . Seems they have no interest in us.
We have been without a vehicle for a good while now, and they don't even bother to ask if we need a ride shopping, to doctors . . .Etc.
I want to just try to forget them at times, but being a mother, it is hard. Any advice. . . Anyone? My husband has always loved them but is turning away now, for he hates the disrespect, especially to me. He can't believe the behavior in all of the family towards us, since we have done nothing. We think it might be because they don't want to make themselves available, for then they may have to help us with things.
We have a nice home, always treated them well in the past, etc., we are baffled.
I could take up much space with examples of their treatment of us, but I won't.
How would you treat this issue, if it was you? I cry all the time.