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I have been on here a year and still dealing with anger.brother passed 1 year ago and told me 3 diff times he was leaving money for mom, about 160 thousand dollars. He was much better off than me. I have been divorced most of life, 62 yo and took early retirement doe to heart problems and moms alzheimer getting worse.My nasty sister inlay spun story, told me brother left money for me and mom while will was in probate and we that I was a beneficiary. I never heard anything else , so went to her house and. She said she misspoke that if I ever needèd help she would. I asked about assisted living later and she said and I quote, well let's see, you get. Her socoL security, and you sold h trailer so you use that and whatever is left I will pay half. I stopped all contact with her. My mom gets around 1000 a month, which goes for daycare to give me a break. I got 7000 dollars for old mobile home, all my mom owned. I have taken care of mom a year now well two if you count me seeing about her every day while brother was sick.
I do not understand and cannot make sense of this. Why didn't brother put some in trust for mom? I always helped mom financially thru the years paid 1500 toward her teeth, bought living and dining room furnitureetc and took her on vacations with me.i am totally alone no children, just a couple good friends, I know she and my brother had around 800 thousand in bonds etc the majority of which my brother made. I know this because brother told me when sil put her 200 thousand in with his 600 thousand. Why did he leave e everything to her? I beleive he was coerced. One time he did ask for my social security no.my sil is a very sneaky person and offered to help with mom in front of her son and daughter law, but in phone bragged to me about going on vacation to France etc and told me we would work something out. I never could pin her down. I want to expose her I think she has npd. Thinks she is always right. I wrote 8 pages about this and want to mail to her daughteriinlaw who she got to call here on one year anniv of brothers death. They asked to speak to Jean and nit me. My mom doesn't know how she is and what day it is. Should I mail letter or talk to someone professionally? I have a lot of anger over how I have been talked to,etc. I took 2000 out of her 7000 to pay for funeral. The biggest joke is that my sil is 70 years old and her children are fromrevious marriage and her daughter is sorry and hasn't worked for 4 years. All I can think of is how much more I could do for mom and the sorry daughter will get the money. Her two children are getting the land and house also.i have 200 thousand my life savings I worked 31 years at local hospital. I am just so pissed my mom is not getting something. I am actually saving them money. At least 1000 a month her portion of assisted living. I will take care of mom long as I can and put her on Medicaid in nh when can no longer handle this, but what to do with anger. Should I write to her daughteriinlaw or see counselor?I

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You should see a counselor to help you with this. This is not after the money. This is about something you and your mother should have. It's your right and you should've done this long time!
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Yes, I think you are right. It is just so hard when I feel the money could have made things easier and better for her snd me.
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Sorry, I thought it was. Anger is something you throw away. You change the things you can, but you can't change your siblings or inlaws. You have Mom and I think that is the biggest treasure of all.
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We get 15 dollars month in food stamps and she does not qualify for Medicaid in ga. She will be Medicaid eligible whe enters nursing home
My question was not monetary
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Mom should be on Medicaid if she only has $1000 per month, and food stamps or SNAP and HEAP. Apply for it, call the county social services. Part of the process is that they look back 5 years at all her finances. It's pretty much an audit, so they will discover any improper finances.
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