I have been the sole caregiver for MIL for 7 years. I just started the Medicaid community care process. According to the lawyer the final arrangements should be prepaid. I'm at a loss. She is very introverted. Family does visit her twice a year but they have denounced my husband and myself. I don't want to have anything to do with them once she passes, including sharing my grief. I'm having trouble deciding what to do for the arrangements. I originally considered all the bells and whistles (embalming, open casket, etc.) one day lay out (wake) , church service and burial. Money quickly became a factor once she required 24hr care. The family won't help with the money. I'm now considering closed casket (last 2 "senior" funerals I've been to they looked pretty bad) with church service and burial. I feel guilty. I want her to have the best to reflect her many years of hard work. The thing is, the funeral is for the family and I don't want to be there because of them. Feeling despondent.