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lodisher Asked September 2017

What are some ways to get a spouse into memory care when they don't want to go?

What are some fibs you used to take him? If they became angry, how did you deal with it?

lodisher Sep 2017
Thank you. I have my mom in a nursing home with dementia. She was resistant but thriving. It is so different with a spouse. I am his center and he is in major denial.

freqflyer Sep 2017
lodisher, I know I was worried if I could get my Dad to move to Memory Care from Independent Living. I started out saying to him if he wants to save $$$ a move to the other building [I didn't say Memory Care] would be cheaper. His ears perked up. Actually the cost was more so it was a therapeutic fib, but money was the driving factor with my Dad.

Then I said he would have a much smaller apartment, joked it was the size of a college dorm. Then we walked over to look at it, and Dad said ok to the "dorm room" :)

Now, I realize there are parents/spouses who will refuse to move from their house, my late Mom was that way. Nope, never, nada. Eventually a serious fall changed everything, she moved to long-term-care.

Thus, everyone has a different story. Hopefully others will pop into this thread and tell us what they did that worked.

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