What are some ways to get a spouse into memory care when they don't want to go?

Thank you. I have my mom in a nursing home with dementia. She was resistant but thriving. It is so different with a spouse. I am his center and he is in major denial.

lodisher, I know I was worried if I could get my Dad to move to Memory Care from Independent Living. I started out saying to him if he wants to save $$$ a move to the other building [I didn't say Memory Care] would be cheaper. His ears perked up. Actually the cost was more so it was a therapeutic fib, but money was the driving factor with my Dad.

Then I said he would have a much smaller apartment, joked it was the size of a college dorm. Then we walked over to look at it, and Dad said ok to the "dorm room" :)

Now, I realize there are parents/spouses who will refuse to move from their house, my late Mom was that way. Nope, never, nada. Eventually a serious fall changed everything, she moved to long-term-care.

Thus, everyone has a different story. Hopefully others will pop into this thread and tell us what they did that worked.