My mother's obsession with shuffling old bills and papers to look 'independent' makes everyone crazy..she doesn't want to do anything else. She seems to want to prove her independence. We have put the bills on autopay, but she still calls the bank over and over and over to ask about balances, etc., even though she receives a statement. My brother and I want to completely take the checkbook, because she has overpaid things that aren't due. She's narcissistic and thinks everyone else is crazy, even tho she's had caregivers for 8 months to manage her meds and meals. I think it's time for assisted living... or memory care.