What if one sibling out of 8 has POA and will not share Mother's information with anyone?

asking1, have you asked the social worker to send the rest of the paperwork to the POA?

I take care of my mother along with one of my brothers and two sisters the one who has the POA does not even come to see her. Like I said all I want is to get her assistance during the say as we all work and all I need is some paperwork I have been to social services and completed what I could but I cannot continue without the documents that my POA brother has. He told me all I think about is myself well I do not see it that way all I am thinking about is my mother she needs help...

Asking, do come back. It sounds as though you are trying to apply for Medicaid on mom's behalf and POA brother is not cooperating.

Jeanne the mom has dementia/Alzheimers, so probably can't change POA at this point. The top verbiage says the POA is also the caregiver. So I'm a bit confused about the mom's situation.

Asking, can you clarify? Does your brother do the caregiving? Does your mom live with him? Is she incompetent to change her POA? Thanks for the additional information.

Very sensible of you asking1. This is often a problem with the caregiver is not the POA. Would your mother be open to naming you POA instead? (Probably not, if one son is a lawyer, but it is worth considering.)

Can you ask the person you are working with to send the paperwork directly to the POA to fill out (certified mail)?

The split caregiver/POA roles CAN work out if the two people work well together and see eye-to-eye about the parent's best interests. What we tend to see on this forum is the cases where it isn't working so well.

Good luck, and let us know how this unfolds for you. We learn from each other.

Trying to get information to allow Medicaid to have a care giver to make sure medications are taken during the day and help with bathing and changing cloths etc. Working all day and then going to take care of her is great but then I can only feed her dinner and give her the evening medications try to shower her and she likes to go out and that is difficult at times. All I want is to have the paperwork they requested so that the process can get started and then we need to of course take her savings and pay for her funeral and the expenses for that but I am not getting anywhere all I want is for her to be safe during the day

One of eight children has POA -- normal.

The POA will not share information with sibs -- common, and perhaps legally necessary, since the POA needs to guard confidentiality.

POA is not the caregiver -- also fairly common.

What is the issue here? What kind of information do you need? Is the POA responsive to, for example, paying for Mom's needs out of her funds?