I totally understand that my brother is POA, my mother is in a nursing care facility for Alzhiemers from what I have been told second hand.

I have been estranged from my brother for over 30 years and he relishes the fact that he has the power to be "GOD" so, to speak with my health.
I just only want to know, what my mother has --and only if-- it is something I should be tested for that may effect my future health.

I do not have any children and I want my friends to know signs to look for if I start getting what my mom has.

I think it is a legimate concern

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A legitimate concern, glad you are able to visit.
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Prayers are with you from here. I am so glad you are not stooping to rattle cages. Just let your Mom know how much you love her and everyone else will be able to see it, too. Strange as it may sound, her condition may not matter, only how you respond to your Mom. God Bless You!
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Thank you both for your advice.
I have gone through the social worker and she asked my brother on my behalf.
I am not rattling cages and do not have an intention of doing so.
Mending fences, though I know you both mean well, really is not appropriate advice to give to anyone when you have no idea why people are estranged.
Like, I said I am sure you mean well.
I haven't been in contact in 30 years, because I suffered verbal & physical abuse from him growing up and when I was able to leave to go to college at 18, I never looked back.
The only contact I have been able to have with my mom is away from the house that she lived in with my brother. Now, that she is in nursing care, I can visit all I want and do.
He takes down all the family photos I put up and bad mouths me to staff.
Yes, I could rattle cages but, there is not reason to lower myself to that.
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Just tell your friends mom either has dementia or Alzheimer's Disease and that they should watch your back. Your friends are watching it anyway. There is no definitive test for Alzheimer's Disease. The strongest indicator is behavior -- followed by a series of tests to rule out other diagnoses. Mention it to your own doctor. And as wise Garden Artist suggested, start mending fences. Concentrate on mending fences rather than rattling cages.
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To the best of my knowledge, the research is still not definitive on whether or not genes causing Alzheimer's are inherited.

I suspect as well that any genetic testing would be astronomically prohibitive.

This is a good and very thorough article on genetic testing for Alzheimer's. It does indicate that testing may very well be an out-of-pocket cost.

Your mother have some other kind of dementia.

Has your brother refused to provide this information to you? Perhaps it's time to mend the 30 year old broken fence.
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