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They have all the excuses in the book (no money and I am mentally unable). My Parents savings are gone they can pay the mortgage of their house my mothers have cancer and all the money m father have goes to her medical bills. we are six kids and only my sister and i help but they are to many bills and we can help with all of them my brothers have a very good job but they are a
angry with my dad about stupid things and they do not want to help my other sister said she does not have money no even a small amount to send to my parents my other sister said she had mental problems but have a job and does not want to help. please help me
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Babalou has a very good suggestion about getting in touch with the hospital social worker. He or she should be able to direct you to sources of help.

There is no obligation for family members to support their elderly parents. Now that people are living so much longer we all have to do the best we can so we can support ourselves in our own old age. It is nearly impossible to support out children and then support our parents and then expect to have money left to support us after retirement. Having all the kids chip in isn't usually a good long-term-solution.

Medicare is the first source of aid to consider. The social worker will have other suggestions. If you can help your parents with getting aid for themselves, that will be a wonderful gift.
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They should certainly apply for Medicaid then. Can you or your siblings help them do thst? Or perhaps the social worker at the hospital where your mom is being treated can help. I'm so sorry that you are all going through this.
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Yes, but is not enough my father have to pay suplements
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In addition, can your parents apply for Medicaid? Are they already getting Medicare?
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The way life works, you are supposed to be able to pay for your housing with your income ( whether from earnings, retirement income or SS)not from savings or donations. It's unsustainable to do it any other way, unless it's just a short term thing.

Can your parents find housing that is more affordable (and probably more senior friendly)? Can you and your sister help them with the sale and moving?

In general, unless children are very wealthy, they shouldn't be funding their parents' housing costs; they need to save for their own retirement.
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