My elderly parents are in their late 80s and live next door. They have had multiple health problems over the past few years. My mother has been through heart valve replacement surgery, is unable to drive, is on oxygen 24/7, and uses a walker. My father was her primary caregiver up until last year when he had a fall that resulted in a traumatic brain injury (TBI). After which, he was also unable to drive and showed signs of Dementia. Several weeks ago, my father had a significant stroke which left him wheelchair-bound and living in a skilled nursing facility. He is no longer able to communicate with us.
My husband and I have always been close with my parents and their go-to support for several years. We've stayed with them when they've been hospitalized, helped them find rehabilitation facilities after hospital stays, dealt with their Medicare and long term care insurance companies, helped them arrange for home healthcare providers, gone with them to doctor visits, and talked to more medical professionals than I care to count. We've shopped for them, cooked for them, done household chores and yard work for them, been their chauffeurs, been the ones they've called on when emergencies occur (one of them has fallen, their electricity has gone out, my Dad needs help finding something he's misplaced for the 100th time, etc.), and the list goes on. My husband and I were extremely involved in helping Mom and Dad after Dad's fall last year. We took several weeks off from work to stay with them 24/7 through Dad's hospital and rehab stays, and helped arrange in-home caregivers on his return home.
Since my Dad's stroke a few weeks ago, my Mom and family are trying to rally our support once again. They are hoping to get Dad "back on his feet and home", even though the neurologists gave him a grim prognosis. I've been on this rollercoaster for so long, that I'm not sure if I'm experiencing "burn-out" or if I've just come to accept that this is the end of Dad's life. Either way, I can not seem to muster the energy or enthusiasm to help any longer or hope for Dad's "recovery." Does anyone on this forum have any words of wisdom about how I can deal with this?