My dad had to go into a memory care facility last year. My mom is an alcoholic, was a mediocre caregiver, and was verbally abusive to him at times. I am an only child. Mom is alone and isolated in their home which is on my street. She does not have dementia. Her primary care doctor and I have attempted to get her help this year: 10-days in a senior mental health facility, followed up by regular visits with a psychiatrist, AA meetings nearby, and physical therapy. Well, she's quit them all and chooses to sit home in self pity. I am 51 and run a small business. My husband and I plan to celebrate a milestone anniversary and take a week away from home later this year. Mom said today "well I will think of killing myself when that happens", meaning...when I go away. I know she is struggling with things right now but does that seem fair or right? I take her every Sunday to visit my dad and I go at least one other time a week to visit him. I help her manage things around her house. It's not like I am absentee. She seems jealous of my relative youth (I am 51, she is 76) and always tells me how fabulous she was when she was in her 40s and 50s (I recall that she was miserable back in those days). She hates happiness, music, goodness. She is downright nasty and rude. Mostly I'm here to vent. I can't imagine another 10 or 20 years living with her. I try to keep it all in but it's starting to spill out and my husband is growing weary. I have no one to talk to about it.