My mom has been living with me and my husband for a year now. She was evaluated and has dementia.
Over the years before this, my family knew something was not right with mom and her memory.
Now me and my husband are taking care of her. My siblings are no help whatsoever. They don’t call to say hi to mom and see how she is doing. They don’t call to see how their older sibling is doing (me) because I have had my own health issues and so does my husband.
I have been very depressed and cry myself to sleep a lot over this thing with mom. And it is also affecting my job. Me and my husband don’t take care of ourselves like we should as far as our health goes. We are taking care of mom and getting abused by her words especially to me. And I can’t handle it anymore.
We have had her on a waiting list at a memory care nursing home and I feel the next time a bed opens we are getting her in there.
Sometimes I feel guilty about this. But me and my husband need to take care of ourselves first. We are tired of the abuse we get and feel this is the right thing to do. But sometimes friends and family make us feel like we are wrong to do it. I just wished they could walk in our shoes for a day or two to see what we have been through.
I really like this site a lot. Thank you for letting me get my feelings out.