My husband and I decided to move in with my 61 year old mother when my 26 year old sister left home for the first time in May of last year. This was intended to be a 3-6 month ordeal; my mother has never lived alone and we were worried as she had recently broken her arm and we figured we could save a bit of money and find a home we really loved in the process. We we're hoping to just help her get on her feet and a bit more independent... and this has completely backfired. A couple months after we moved in she quit her job and does not intend to find another one (told me she did, fessed up later that she is not looking). We also found out around the same time that we are expecting our first child. I am doing my best to help her, but this has become a complicated pregnancy and I am stressed to the max. She does not clean up after herself or her animals, she does not eat unless she is served, she sleeps until noon and watches TV all day. There is no one left to help her, most of my family keeps their distance from her and she's the type to only keep friends that give her things. I am 29 weeks pregnant and devoting the majority of my time, effort and remaining strength to keeping her afloat. She inherited a decent amount of money from my grandfather that she is trying to live off of as well as our assistance, but I have no idea how much it is or how long she can dip into it because any talk of finances turns into lashing out, yelling and scolding because it is "uncooth to talk about money". So far we've gotten her set up with social security upon her turning 62 in November (which was like pulling teeth to get necessary information for from her) and she will only be getting 400-500 a month. I have also started the process for medical coverage for her and attempted to try and get her to talk to a financial advisor to no avail. My husband wants to work toward a POA type of situation as she refuses to take care of herself, but I'm not sure if that could work because she is not disabled in any way and is able bodied and sound of mind at first glance, and I doubt she would relinquish any control. I'm putting my health at risk from taking care of her, but I know that if she won't she WILL NOT do anything to help herself; she has already in her life destroyed a home from hoarding and pet damage/negligence, and that was with more people available to help her. Her current house was stacked halfway to the ceiling with mess in some areas, we now have the place to presentable shape. My sister is out of the question for any help, she has asked me to stop talking to her about my mother and has all but stopped talking to me since I got pregnant. Any advice on where to go from here? I feel completely stuck and am not even sure where to start with a real solution.