My inlaws are in their late 50s and retired. They would like us to move into their home when they move here in 2 years. MIL has history of dementia on her side and is already showing signs. FIL has heart and other health problems and is also deteriorating mentally. I'm looking for a list of questions to ask them (what are their expectations, what is their financial situation, etc.). I'd like to know if there is a resource or if you have experience with this type of thing. They will probably be able to take care of themselves for at least 5, maybe 10 years. And I'd like to make sure that all 4 of us are clear on what the long-term plan is for when their health declines.
What do we need to consider regarding the MIL's imminent dementia?
I may be the only one working full-time - my husband has fibromyalgia and is going to be applying for disability.
I'm also worried about the MIL, DIL dynamic. we get along superficially, but aren't very close and have had a few tiffs in the past.