I am a daughter who is also ill, My mom is in assisted living/memory care, we had her little dog with her, and it is causing issues , because she is not able to look after the dog, and the dog is old too, I think it is time to put the dog down, and I know it is going to add alot more turmoil to things. My mom gets emotionally upset, and she calls me, I am 20 miles away. All I can do is offer support on the phone. I currently have a cold, so it's not a good idea for me to go be around other elderly people , Right?!
Anyway , There is also an issue another person is a POA, and communication is not happening. they think they are alone in the decision process, and I have assured them, they aren't. This other person and myself were named as POA, other person first, and me next, well since I'm now on Hospice pallative care, I have to remove myself from that, which I did, and I'm paying attorney fees on this btw, anyway, I added my husband in my place. Well the POA , now assumes she is alone, and has to make all the decisions all the time, NO, that is not true, and I've told them, We are here to help, You just have to ask for help , I mean, Shoot I can't mind read.
Another issue is we do not feel my mom is getting enough attention if you will, at the facility. She goes and sits in her room all day long, and if she doesn't come out for meals, they don't go get her. Isn't that a bit odd? I thought, we were suppose to have a family meeting, 2 months into mom living there, I have asked about it, and they say we'll set that up, but never do. Trust I am really involved, and I speak up A Lot! I am not rude or obnoxious , but I do speak up. I am very involved in my mom's well being out there. I was diagnosed with Mitochondrial disease, and my body is starting to really deteriorate, I'm worried that , if I die no one will look after my mom properly. POA is a family friend. and she is busy with her own issues and family. My husband , is nearly 70.
My mom is 77. and now has to have heart surgery, Aortic Valve replacement surgery. They think that is what is causing the dementia plus other things. They hoping to do it via her groin, I hope. The other option really isn't an option, My mom may way 98 pounds soak and wet. I'm scared ..
I got a lot, going on here, and sorry to be long winded. I have expressed, I think Me and the POA , need to go to support groups, she says she doesn't have time. I am also concerned about the POA , shes doing so much for her own family, working full time job, working another job on weekends. She's gonna end up getting sick herself and be no use to anyone then so yea.. That's my life in a nutshell at moment