Our 83 y.o. mother (a widow) has dementia and is living in her home still with the devoted care of my sister, who lives across the street. I cannot do it. I became physically ill from her emotional abuse and moved 200 miles away 5 years ago. I talk to one/both of them every day. As her forgetfulness etc. increases, she is driving away her few friends and becoming more impaired. Now she is trying to pit us against each other via phone. If we tell her something she doesn't want to hear, she says "Well, your sister is lying. She's a horrible person, a liar." This is devastating. She has nothing positive to say and is not interested in us. Oh, and she's also an active alcoholic who gets drunk a few times a week at the neighbor's house.
How do you cope with a parent who has no memory and is always negative? AND knowing it will only get worse? Doctors offer nothing in terms of medication.