My elderly mother lives alone in her home, doesn't drive, is on oxygen 24/7, has limited mobility and multiple health problems. She also lives in a rural area with very limited services. Out of all my siblings, I live the closest to my Mom and am the first person she calls whenever she needs anything, which is almost every day. She recently ended up in the hospital for yet another health problem. This time, it prompted a discussion about her moving to assisted living. With her multiple problems and declining health, I would like to see her go to an assisted living facility. However, she does not want to leave her home and my siblings support her decision. My siblings live a few hours away. My mom will not call them for help because she doesn't want to bother them.
I don't think my Mom or my siblings realize how much is being asked of me. I don't want to be responsible for my Mom's well being and I worry that something will eventually happen to her living alone.
I don't know what to do. I am trying to think through the consequences of abandoning the situation and telling my Mom and siblings they can no longer rely on me. Does anyone have any advice?