First off I have been reading here for sometime, answered or commented but never asked a question...I want to Thank all of You Lovely People ;)
(I'm going to set the stage) Mom is 78 living alone. I have 2 siblings one here and one on the west coast. The sibling here has told me many times she reaps what she sowed...I'll be honest she's a difficult person to deal with and wasn't a good mother. This has been amplified with age possibly undiagnosed Alzheimers and or some sort of dementia related condition.
Several years ago she had a 20 minute memory test and passed with flying colors, so she thinks she's fine. I find out here a true test is an all day test and I don't have the heart to tell her the truth. She knows she forgets things but not just how bad it really is...she thinks we steal and sell her things.
Shes had several strokes, the last one was 4 yrs ago and quite bad. Weeks of therapy and months of convalescing. She also suffers from high blood pressure, COPD and heart-related issues. She refuses to do any exercising of any kind and is winded after few steps...smokes like a freight train.
So three weeks ago she said she was just standing there and fell over, didn't hurt herself or anything just fell over. I thought we should call her Dr. and she refused. Just this last week she fell over again with no rhyme or reason...she wasn't going to tell me but was kinda forced to.
Heres the thing after her last stroke she tried to commit suicide and I can't push but so much for fear she'll try again...remember she is very stubborn and difficult. To her I am pushy, bossy etc.
I don't know what to do...leave her alone? Im afraid of her falling down the stairs or anywhere for that matter. She refuses to wear the alert necklace...
Sorry for the novel...