I am probably the youngest care giver here. Being 21; I take care of My 78 year old grandmother.. the only other person that helps Me is My mother and after 4 months of My Grandma living here.. My mom is struggling with it. I don't blame her due to the fact that she (having just gone through a major surgery about 7 weeks ago) is still recouping and doing her best to heal.
The biggest struggle for Me is to remain as posotive as possible when I know that they situation with My grandma is taking a big toll on My mom, emotionally, mentally and physcially.. and in turn.. My father.The envoirment isn't stress-free as it should be in order for My mother to heal quick and proper.. infact its anything but that.
Even though My mother is now able to move around a little more than she was 6 weeks ago, the majority of the daily house hold things are still on Me.. I don't really mind because I know its a help to My mom. However.. the thing that bothers Me the most is the fact that My grandmother doesn't seem to want to do anything.. she grunts and groans when in the presence of Myself and My mother.. complaining about every little ache and pain.. and yet.. she can walk the entire front lawn by herself (living on over an acre) without missing a single step.
I am under the suspicision that she isn't doing her breathing treatments, she misses her pills (if I don't remind her) or I believe that if I don't stand there and -watch- her take them that she just throws them away. She has an oxygen machine that she is supposed to wear every night while she sleeps as she has advanced COPD, asthema both of which contribute to her narcolepsy in more than one way.
A guy of the company dealing with the machine came out just 2 maybe 3 days ago and gave My grandmother a new set of canula's because she was complaining that they never stayed in her nose over night.
In the mornings I go in her room to wake her up.. take her blood pressure and dole out the morning meds and 80% of the time.. the canula isn't on her face.. but tossed to the floor and her machine is still running... she doesn't eat much.. only showers once a week (or before a doctors appointment).. in the past four months she has lost 30+ lbs..
Perhaps its really pointless to just rant and rave about all of this... I don't really know.. but I'm almost at My wits end in regards to what to do with My own grandmother. I've already dealt with having that watch My grandfather waste away... can I really just sit back and watch My grandmother due the same?