I agree a transition to a facility might be warranted but they have refused to give anyone POA from the beginning. They have always been self serving and resistant to considering needs or feelings of others. They want to live with my brother who wants them there. I have endured this situation for 7 yrs. it was difficult but easily avoidable until the past 2 yrs.
I can’t force my dad to accept my partner and I can’t stop his verbal abuse towards us with calm discussion.
My parents have been conniving to run my partner off since he moved in. They think he should be obeying their whims and cow-towing to them. He’s 62yo and very helpful around the house. He pays half my bills and has dragged them around plenty but there is no gratefulness available from them.
He just minds his own business. Now he tries to stay to himself completely when around them to avoid antagonizing my Dad.
It’s a very stressful situation.
I feel if not for the continual animosity coming from my dad it would be bearable but he now is insulting to me as well as bf. And today when I said good morning he just said “no talk!!!!”
So now I am resigned to just ignoring him. I talk to my mother who is usually approachable but it is still hurtful to have my dad my fishing and hunting buddy and conciliary push me away.
I think my brother should have stepped up several years ago but he was not yet in a position to do so. He is ready and willing. He is 62yo and I am sure he is aware of the pitfalls that can arise.