I have trouble with anxiety and anger.

Check into an antidepressant or antianxiety drug for yourself if not already taking one. What behaviors does mom exhibit when you are having a difficult time yourself?

Do you feel trapped and obligated to care for mom? Yes she cared for you when you were growing into an adult. But, caring for the elderly is a much different task altogether.

Knierim, I am a bit confused. You mentioned you like taking care of your mother, then in the next breath you are asking how to deal with anxiety and anger. Sounds like you might be reaching the end of your rope when it comes to caregiving.

Even though a parent had raised us, we weren't the size of adults when we were kids, we learned how to do things for ourselves, and our parent were probably in their 20's or 30's when we were kids, thus had a ton of energy. For myself, I was a senior citizen taking care to two much older senior citizens. When visiting, when they fell asleep watching TV, so did I :P

How to deal with the anxiety and anger.... please note that not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver. I know I wasn't, but I was good with logistics. The anxiety and stress was still ever present. Even after my Mom moved to long-term-care, and later my Dad to senior living, I still was quite stressed.

My family doctor had recommended for me something to calm my nerves, but I refused to take the meds. Oh how I could kick myself for not doing that, I am sure I would have been in a much better frame of mind.

How do you deal with anxiety and anger when taking care of your parent?