My mom was very active person until 90 years old when she got into ER with aspiration pneumonia, being on intubation 3 days and then her dementia worsened. She does not remember she was living in my house 15 years, she does not remember what happen to her, she lost her desires to live. She is in rehab now and on feeding tube and if her ability to swallow will not be back, I can't take her home and she'll go to a rehab facility. I feel guilty and helpless, my brother is far away and does not want even to come to see mom, my family is supportive but my husband thinks that she took 15 years of his life with me as she was a very demanding person all her life, so he also does not want to visit her, so it's all on me. I am feeling as I am slowly dying too, seeing her life miserable and coming every day to rehab for nothing, I can't help, I am just crying….I read all similar posts and I know the advices will be, stop coming so often, live your life for you and your family. It's easy to say and hard to do.