I really am. People have joked that my older brother is my mom's "husband" since our dad died thirty years ago. I won't bore you with tbe outrageous stories of favoritism for 50 years. Suffice it to say he has been MIA while I have cared for mom every step of the way, including now, while she is in major decline. I and my ex husband care for her around the clock. I left school to care for her when my dad died because she was depressed and suicidal. Ive taken her everywhere with me, shopping, vacations, parties, book club, Mass, everything. When my mom started going blind 6 years ago my brother would not respond when I told him we needed to talk about her condition. When she began falling, she would call me, my ex husband or her neighbors to come pick her off the floor, though my brother lived one block away. She "didnt want to bother him." Last December a fall put her in the hospital for a month. During that time I found out my mom had given my brother POA 30 years ago, after which she mortgaged her house to bail him out of credit card debt. She mortgaged the house five more times since then and now owes almost 200k dollars on it. All for him. I and my ex husband have been literally changing her diapers, feeding her, putting her to bed, getting her dressed, everything. We have taken her to about 2 hundred doctor appointments, sat with her through surgeries, rehab, the whole bit. Before my moms hozpitalization I discovered my brother had bought a half million dollar house over an hour away and told my daughter not to tell me he was moving. Meanwhile I am struggling to make ends meet and running a business alone, taking care of my mom full time. When I asked my Mom if she could help me with a small loan she said, "Oh your brother is in charge of all that." He told me, "There will be no more loans against the house." My brother is sole POA for everything. In addition to the mortgages she took out for him he has taken out 8 credit cards against my moms credit and racked up another 50k. I am desperate to protect the rest of my own interests in her estate as Ive never received anything and have lost a lot of income caring for her. She may also need to go into a home and what if he spends all she has? My mom defers to my brother absolutely. He left her for dead literally two weeks ago, leaving her alone with no food or medicine or telephone. Yet when she had a UTI last week I could not even talk to the doctors because he is POA. He swept in after work and huddled with the doctors after my ex and I cleaned up her vomit and feces and got her to the hospital. Ive called attorneys but they say unless my mom will consent to changing her documents there is nothing they can do. My brother got my mom to put him on the deed to her house as well and convinced him to remove me as a trustee. Hes not paying her bills on time or balancing her checkbook and I cant even sign her name for her (shes blind). She refuses to acknowledge that he hates me. He has told me I will get nothing when she passes and then tells HER he loves me and he will make sure Im cared for. Its all lies. How can I convince my mom to put me in charge?