We know that as a caregiver you experience moments with your loved one that make you laugh, cry and sometimes even embarrass you. Who better to share those amazing moments with than other caregivers!
The Caregiver Forum receives thousands of stories from caregivers all over and as our team reads each one, we laugh and cry with you. We put together our favorites, so be prepared to cringe, laugh…and grab a tissue.
Funny Caregiving Stories
Mom is 91-years-old and suffers from Alzheimer's. She also has a distended abdomen from a hiatal hernia, misshapen feet from having worn ill-fitting shoes and has had a mastectomy. She could also lose a few pounds. I recently I overheard her tell her aide while bathing, "Don't be jealous of my body."
My wife has Alzheimer's and I put some jewelry on her for a Christmas party. While waiting to leave, she took one of her bracelets off, I put it on, she took it off - neither of us saying much. This time picked it up and I set it on the table & said ok, maybe you should not wear it. All was silent, then she quietly said - without looking at me - "you have got some attitude". I had to LOL!
One night at the dinner table, my father (who has dementia) asked my husband and I if we are married. After we told him we were, he started singing, "All I want for Christmas is my mem-or-ree!" I'm glad dad can laugh about this!
Something cute. I came home yesterday from work and Mom came out to the kitchen to greet me. I said, "Mom, you have on my sweat pants!" We each have a pair of soft, comfy pea green sweats. Hers are a size 14 and mine are a few sizes bigger! She says, "I thought I had lost a lot of weight!" Then she pulls up her shirt to show me she had them pinned to her bra to keep them up! We had a good laugh!
My mother is a little peanut of a woman - barely 5 feet tall. For some reason all the exam tables in doctor's offices are way too high, but they still expect Mom to hike herself onto them. One day, a nurse was trying to help Mom and complimented her on her ability to get up on the table. Mom turned to her and said, "I'm little but I'm mighty." The nurse could not stop laughing.
I was kneeling beside Mom's bed last night when she was saying her bedtime prayer. This night she prayed, "Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the LORD my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray he takes me like an earthquake." Instead of ...my soul to take. I said "what?" Mom laughed and said, "well, I couldn't remember the rest and ...well, it rhymed" ! ~ Amen!
Slightly Inappropriate Humor...
My mom lived in an assisted care facility where everyone left their doors open. One man with Alzheimer's was restless and walked the halls endlessly. On one visit, she mentioned that he had tried to crawl into bed with her one night. I said what did you do?! She told him he was in the wrong room & he left. Then she added, "What good is a man in your bed if he can't remember anything..." :)
My father has had a couple of strokes and has trouble with finding and interchanging words a lot. One day, we got in the car to go shopping and he started yelling to stop the car. I asked "why" and he told me he left his balls at home. He was speaking about his wallet. So now it is a joke when we leave the house we ask if him if he has his balls. This is only one of many funnies.
My mother, who has Alzheimer's and is in nursing care, called me one night to tell me she "just had the most wonderful shower" and she wanted to know "should she tip the man that gave her the shower?" I told her "only if she had a good time." lol. It was actually a woman that gave her the shower but with her bad eye sight, Mom thinks anyone with short hair is a man.....
My Dad has a CNA come twice a week to assist him with his bath. I mentioned to him yesterday that he should get her something for Christmas. He told me to pick her up one of those things that you "rub and it grows". After a few questions I discovered he meant a Chia Pet.
After turning down the covers and placing a nightly glass of water next to her side of the bed, my mother asked dad if he was coming to bed. His reply "Oh NO my wife would kill me! But thank you for offering" This happened after 10 years of her caring for him with Alzheimer's.
My mother can't hear to follow conversation in a noisy environment so she just sits quietly and doesn't participate. During a loud family get-together my oldest son was pondering what he should get his best friend as a wedding gift. Out of the blue my conservative mom says loudly "CONDOMS"! The room went silent until we all bursting out laughing!
Embarrassing Caregiving Moments
My parents and I were in a doctor's waiting room. We saw an old friend and talked with him and then went back to our seats. Mom (who is deaf) kept saying over and over REALLY loud, "Wow, has he gained a lot of weight. Looks like he's really going downhill". I couldn't make her stop so just died inside and smiled outside. I tried to say "sorry" by osmosis to the dear man (my first employer).
My 83-year-old mother is living with us now. We finally got her to go out and eat one night. We got our food and she said LOUDLY, "well no wonder you all never lose weight". I wanted to crawl under the table..LOL....
My mom has Alzheimer's and she had asked for a chocolate donut one day that I didn't have on hand. The next morning, I told her to stay in bed for a few more minutes until I finished dressing and I would have a surprise for her if she waited. She said, "You found a husband?" I said, "No mom, just a chocolate donut for you." lol
My 84-year-old mother frequently thinks of me as her three-year-old toddler. I was reminded not long ago that my 47-year-old face isn't quite what she remembers. I was kneeling next to her bed. "Frances, my little pumpkin-chan," she began, then stopped and looked at me in horror. "WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU?"
Inspiration from Other Caregivers
It is not patience you need, It is compassion.
My mom used to say, "The best thing about having Alzheimer's or dementia is that every day is brand new - this is travelling light!"
Don't take life too seriously or you'll never get out of it alive!
My momma always used to tell me..."it is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no one can sincerely try to help another without helping themselves too." Thinking about this really helps me get through the times that I feel discouraged, because I know that through helping her, I'm also making changes in my life and helping myself!
After months of being forced against her will to move into an assisted living facility my mom now hugs and kisses everyone when I bring her back after a family outing, she's so happy to see all her friends …
Stories that bring tears to your eyes
This weekend, Dad was frantically searching for "Krissy" (what he's called me since I was a girl). I didn't correct him and tell him I was Krissy. I pulled out a childhood picture he keeps in his room and said "Here she is!" He smiled and said, "This is my baby girl Krissy. I love my baby girl." As the tears rolled down my cheeks, I said, "She loves you, too."
On one of my parents visits at our home, my Dad was getting ready to go out for breakfast, he went to see if my Mother was going and if she was all ready. With a tear in his eye he looked at her and told me, your mother is still beautiful. They are going on 63 years of marriage.
Today I sat my mother in a comfy chair near the Christmas Tree and I put the ornaments boxes on her lap. She felt so useful as she handed me each one. I put Christmas music in the background and we sung along with the tunes. We both felt so happy by the time the tree was decorated. I took her picture next to the tree and will be sending copies to the relatives. She felt really special!
I was sitting with my mom, in the final stages of vascular dementia, when suddenly she looked me straight in the eyes and said tenderly, "I love you." I was so touched and replied, "I love you, too." She smirked and asked, "Now, who are you?!" We both laughed. When I told her I was her daughter, Mom got teary and exclaimed, "You are mine?" She was visibly grateful and thrilled. As was I!
My Dad was in a nursing home with Parkinson's disease. He had contracted pneumonia and was being given "comfort care". One day, we wheeled my 93-year-old Mom in to visit him. He woke up with a smile and looked at her. "You got your hair done", he said. He had macular degeneration and was blind but somehow he saw that his wife of 75 years had been to the hairdresser. He died a few days later at 96.