What works for you: Keeping yourself happy.

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When we get angry, overwhelmed, side-tracked by others' needs we might forget to make time for little things that keep us happy within ourselves throughout the day. Aside from emotional eating (usually on sweets or bad types of fats), what kinds of activities and small rituals do you do by and for yourself to help you stay on the track of feeling good about yourself, healthy, hopeful, spiritually connected, and knowing you are fueling your inner joy?
Let's share some ideas and practices and see if we can inspire each other.

I think there is always a moment or something that you do that calls you "home".

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Leakey if you ever get the chance, watch Away From Her, a movie about a woman (Julie Christie) who is in a care facility with Alzheimers, while her very loving husband tries to navigate the emotions of it. It's a lovely film about relationships and Alzheimers.
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Leakey, my mom met a nice man in his 90s whose wife has Alz and is in a home. The man visits his wife often and appears only respectful and open to friendships to other people. I did a family history video for another man in his 90's in same situation.
I think both these men and others like them might find a deep satisfaction in being loyal to the end to their wives. They seem to be rooted firmly who they are and not needy in any of the usual ways like younger men. But that's my narrow opinion. I havent' seen otherwise yet, but I am sure the other side of the coin is there. The question is, would you be willing to step into such a relationship?
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Does no one ever think of companionship and sex life when your spouse is in a home getting the best Care possible with Alzheimer's
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Veronica - I have so much to do around here, not that I enjoy all of it, but enjoy getting it done -no time to pick fluff off blankets or color. Need to make another batch of chutney. I got the urge to a couple of years ago, though I have never made it and hadn't canned in years. I tried different combinations of fruit like lime and nectarine, pears and walnuts and they all were good. Right now I am making beef bone broth - very healthy and nutritious. I have to finish packing up my father's WW1 gear and send it and the rest of the family silver over seas to a nephew. Too much to do always. I have also been doing a little book and record keeping for G and want to take a small business program one of these days. I enjoy that. I help him with presentations, once in a while.Never too late to learn.
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Thanks everyone for sharing your joy and what you do. What a nice way to get to know each other better. I had a client I was counting on postphone his work which bummed me out. Took a walk outside, enjoyed the beauty of the Fall colors, the silence, the delicious fresh air filled with leaves, the sounds of nature: wow, totally restored.
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Emjo all the activities you describe are the reasons you and i are not sitting in our gerri chairs picking fluff off blankets. Preparing for old age is a lifelong process.
Otherwise you will be sitting in the lounge with all the other residents coloring hopefully within the lines of the pictures kindly provided by the nice OT lady
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Walks outside and taking photos really relaxes me. I forget about everything. Cooking does that too. Most of the time I have music on - classical - and, once in a long while, I dance. I play games in the computer - keeps my mind sharp. While I was out of town last week, I found a TV channel with great older movies and watched several. I find a few on the channels here, but not so many. Of course reading and writing on here is therapeutic. I post lots of pics of all sorts on FB and enjoy that process and people's feedback.
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I love going to the movies, working in the yard, planting flowers, cooking, and I am with most of you...turning up the tunes. Love to dance, laugh, and I used to sit with my family on cold days and watch movies all day while cooking a one pot meal to enjoy between movies. Since mom has been ill, I have lost all these things I love. Getting back to them without the guilt would be wonderful!
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Recently I started doing crafts again at our local senior center. I took mom to one (ceramics) but she found it stressful. I teach pastels as the other craft. It allows me to teach (which was my career and passion) and gets me to express myself. Once a week for 1.5 hours I am drawing and not thinking about anything else. I look forward to both of these activities. So find a place or activity that you can do just for you.
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im usually engineering something while im chatting on here or " newsing " around online . next on my list is a root cellar. now i need to engineer it to the least amount of digging / labor , and then engineer the cost down to near nothing . i have enough fill sand out front to almost build poured concrete walls . i can buy damaged bags of cement for cheap in town but tomorrow looks like a total rain out for the purpose of working and i have to figure out how to dig 10 ton of earth out of the bank out back -- in the pouring rain .
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