My siblings have kept me from my mom for 7 weeks now. I have no idea where she is. She fell 3 months ago, had subdural bleed, then surgery. I took care of her in her home previously for several years. Sibs deny this and have tried to get me evicted. Excuse is they want to sell house to pay for her care. I leave soon and unsure where to. The cruelness is truly unbelievable. I tried to get APS involved. It was a joke. The young woman spent about an hour with my mom. She returned with comments that my mom did not want me to know where she is, nor her friends. We are the ones who spent the most time with her. Now she is isolated because the siblings have tainted her demented and damaged brain. It is probably one of the saddest and toxic situations anyone could imagine.
My most toxic controlling brother wrote me and emailed me yesterday asking me to not try to find my mom saying she does not want to see me. And then asked me how it felt to know I would never see her again. How sick is this?
As you can imagine, having been her caregiver, this is so painful to have a sick family that would do this to any member of a family. I feel there is nothing more I can do. I realize now my mom was demented pre fall, but now I know she is definitely compromised (per her neuro doc and NP) with being isolated and groomed. It appears they have turned everyone against me, including aunts and cousins. When I called my mom's sister last night, she hung up on me.
The tears I have shed and the grief of this loss is unbearable. I do not know what else I can do. The most toxic brother is very rich and he will do anything to continue to torture me. I have very little work and no home due to the time I spent with my mom. He calls me lazy and unsuccessful. He is rich and that is his idea of success and he tells my mom he can pay for everything, which is a lie. He wants the money from her house, so he does not have to spend his money.
How does one go on? In the darkness of this situation it is hard to see the light. How do you crawl out and move forward? I feel so paralyzed and need to move forward, but it is so hard. I plan on leaving the country to step back and look at situation and take a break. It feels so lonely though and not sure that is the remedy. Not sure what else I can do. How can family treat one person (me) so badly when they were not there to help and now control the end?