Only child - mom in nursing home - question about "comfort care" only.
In May the n.h. asked me if I wanted mom under Hospice care (she's 93, coherent, mild dementia)then social worker said "she can always refuse." there was a lot of hoopla between May & the summer about what I wanted for mom - blood draws (NO! - she hates that & it's invasive) x-rays, etc.This week mom told me they even drew blood (!) during the night - turns out it was for potassium. I told the head nurse I don't want ANY blood work done - was that thei right thing to do - what if her potassium level drops & she dies?????But then they're not getting a CBC, glucose level, or anything else either, so I'm just respecting her wishes & the Nursing Home told me in May she's getting worse, dementia is progressing & now they're saying she's stable. Another thing you should know: when she was admitted in July 2011 the ONLY thing on the paperwork that identififies the paperwork as hers is her INTIALS there's no date, name of facility, NOTHING!!!!!!That place has me pretty much turned inside out! I'm so upset about this whole thing!!! Thanks for listening.