My mother has acknowledged the possibility on nursing care in the near future. She has been with me in SC for a year and her homesickness has gotten progressively worse over time. Yesterday at the doctor's office she said that if and when she needed nursing care she wanted to be closer home (NC). Since my mother has no assets, I can already see problems (Medicaid) going from one state to another. My preference would be to have her near me so I can visit and look after her as much as possible, but I know she misses friends and relatives, who may or may not visit her. And, there is the possibility it will not be as ideal as she thinks and then she will want to be closer to me. When issues develop or there is a crisis, it's a 4 hour drive to get there.....not something I want to do every week. I feel that being there would improve her quality of life (at least she thinks so) but would make it very difficult for me to know that she is getting the best care possible. Her health has declined to the point that this may be the only thing that will bring her any comfort and peace. I would appreciate your thoughts and suggestions.