If you could escape your caregiving duties, where would you go?

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While reading JohnDBarry34's post, "I am so very tired and sad.", I realized that we all want and need to escape our responsibilities of caring for our loved one for awhile. It's normal when we feel trapped in a difficult situation, without being able to see the end of our duties. For many of us, the whole 24 hours are spent catering to our loved ones. Even though we love them, we want to leave at times, to cultivate our lives, enjoy and have fun.


So, my question is;
Where would you go? Would it be close to home, another city, around the world or out of this world. Close your eyes for a couple of minutes and let your mind journey to a happy place.


My "happy place" is the beach in Bucerias, Nayarit, Mexico. We used to go with friends when we lived there and we had such a good time. The sand was clean and fine grain, which felt great between the toes, the sun was warm with a faint ocean breeze, and you could wade out quite far in the ocean to catch little waves with the boogie boards. The pelicans would fly in formation high in the sky.
The ladies would set to work on making ceviche and the guys would bring out the Coronas. Everyone would sit under the canopy, eating, talking and laughing. After having our fill, more ocean time. At the end of the day we'd pile into our pickup, sandy and content.


I feel tears welling up in my eyes for the good memories. My heart longs to be there once more. On really hard caregiving days, I close my eyes for a minute and think back to the good times on that beach. It renews me for awhile, like a 2 minute vacation. It also gives me hope that it will still be there when all this madness is over. Hope is what keeps us going.

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Home. My mountain home is empty and in another state. It's snowing there now...
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Lately I've been wishing I had the means to be one of those folks who run away to Hawaii or Mexico or Jamaica every Christmas....somewhere warm, where my family isn't.
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I have a romantic dream about living in a small Paris apartment. Walking along the Seine every day and eating French pastries.
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This summer my younger daughter used her wish from make a wish to take us back to England for a week...I'd go there again at the drop of a hat.
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Far away white sandy beach (or black sandy beach) is sounding really good right about now.
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I would choose an English village similar to the one Miss Marple in the Agatha Christie books lived. Everyone would wave & smile at each other & I would no longer be invisible.
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@Momshelp - I totally get your worries about indoor cats vs. dogs and people who aren't careful about doors!! Glad you get to go home to stay sometimes, I'm a little envious! Lol. I definitely hear you that home is sanctuary. That's how I feel about my place.

Our situation is that I am staying with mom, and there was no one at home (it's just me) to look after my older cat when I started doing it. (I have someone staying at my place now.)  I got the kitten as a buddy for my older cat after I started staying with mom, as she lives 6 floors up and it's pretty boring for kitty with no trees or wildlife to watch (just the occasional pigeon!). Plus for my sanity! The kitten really lifts the overall mood around here. :-)
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Dorianne, I'm so happy you included kitty. I get to spend 1 night a week in my own bed w/my spouse & our cats. I could take a cat to moms but she has a big dog & isn't careful about doors. My cats are strictly indoors. I just decided it's not worth the added stress to take them. I know that 1 night is a mini vacation & when I get 2 nights in a row, it's the equivalent of a week off! Home is my vacation. Home is sanctuary. Home is where my real life is. I'm ending a 2 nights off right now & I love my mom but I wish I could make it 3 nights!
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My kitten had vaccinations today, and then I had to get my snow tires put on. So while I was waiting for my truck, I arranged with my housesitting friend for me and the kitten to visit with him at my apartment. I was kind of inspired by this thread and my earlier comment when I arranged it.

It was soooooo wonderful to be in my own home, even for a couple of hours! I missed the trees! They are golden and half-bare. Plus the kitten got to see where we REALLY live for the first time. He seemed to think it was the funnest place on earth! Which was awesome. Maybe he picked up my lifted mood. My friend and I are going to do more "home visits," for my sanity's sake, and so that the kitten knows our home.

I'm so glad I found this forum!
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Great question! Nice to think about ourselves once in a while. My 94 yr old mom lives with my husband and me. We bought the family homestead, and she came along with the deal. It’s been 36 years now. I would like to just be home by myself for a change. Then of course that would lose luster, and I’d take a month long vacation in Hawaii.
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