If you could escape your caregiving duties, where would you go?

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While reading JohnDBarry34's post, "I am so very tired and sad.", I realized that we all want and need to escape our responsibilities of caring for our loved one for awhile. It's normal when we feel trapped in a difficult situation, without being able to see the end of our duties. For many of us, the whole 24 hours are spent catering to our loved ones. Even though we love them, we want to leave at times, to cultivate our lives, enjoy and have fun.

So, my question is;
Where would you go? Would it be close to home, another city, around the world or out of this world. Close your eyes for a couple of minutes and let your mind journey to a happy place.

My "happy place" is the beach in Bucerias, Nayarit, Mexico. We used to go with friends when we lived there and we had such a good time. The sand was clean and fine grain, which felt great between the toes, the sun was warm with a faint ocean breeze, and you could wade out quite far in the ocean to catch little waves with the boogie boards. The pelicans would fly in formation high in the sky.
The ladies would set to work on making ceviche and the guys would bring out the Coronas. Everyone would sit under the canopy, eating, talking and laughing. After having our fill, more ocean time. At the end of the day we'd pile into our pickup, sandy and content.

I feel tears welling up in my eyes for the good memories. My heart longs to be there once more. On really hard caregiving days, I close my eyes for a minute and think back to the good times on that beach. It renews me for awhile, like a 2 minute vacation. It also gives me hope that it will still be there when all this madness is over. Hope is what keeps us going.


Somewhere remote where there is no cellphone coverage and no internet so that my husband and I could unplug. I'd really love if it they didn't have telephones!!! I've always wanted to go to Iceland, camp under the Northern Lights, hike through the forest, take a sled ride, ride horses, sit in hot springs, eat delicious food, drink amazing libations, and meet new people who have interesting things to say.
I am my husband’s caregiver. He is immobile, incontinent and even through many rehabs and tons of therapy, he has never made much effort to regain mobility. I don’t think I would want to “escape”. My wish would be to have my husband healthy or at least mobile again and then escape somewhere with him.
My caregiving duties for my parents is over - but I still have my caregiving duties for my son. I hope to be able to care for Rainman for a long, long time - but I wouldn't say "no" to a long vacation.

I have always wanted to spend Christmas in Paris. I'm thinking a month from early December through New Years.

Failing that - Christmas at the Oregon Coast. A month renting a small cabin on the beach for me, hubby, Rainman and our three little dogs. This one may actually be do-able... some day.
I try to do some things now. I am a distance caregiver and 80 yrs old so if I don't do things now, I may never do them. I am not comfortable going out of the country much as I have POA duties, but I enjoy smaller trips within the country. One day I would like to go to Europe again - maybe a river cruise in Germany, a trip to Greece, revisiting Italy ... There is so much to see. I haven't been in a Museum or an art gallery for years. A concert under the stars would be great.
In a dream world in which I had enough money to go wherever I want, I'd go to Austria, probably Vienna, as well as Paris. and travel around to see all the marvelous chateaux, including Giverny and Chenonceau.

I'd also go to Czechoslovakia/Czech Republic to see the magnificent Art Nouveau works of art.

I'll just leave it at that for a while as I indulge in daydreams of waltzing in Vienna on New Years Eve. When I'm more down to earth, I'll think about where I'd really be able to go on a limited budget.
Knowing this time would come, hubby push me to visit most of the places I wanted to see and do what I had always dreamed of. I did! I took thousands of photos from 40 different countries in a 12 year period. My travel window did close. Hubby in at home hospice, and mom has issues too. So I know have all those photos to sort through, which is great. When my travel widow opens again, it will be a one week trip to Vegas or a cruise to anywhere. Bottom line a week of doing nothing for anyone. A week of pure me time to recharge the batteries.
I really enjoyed reading about all these places that you want to visit. Oh my, they sound wonderful.

As the sole responsible family member for my cousin, I really can't venture far from her MC facility. She's late stage now and you never know what will happen. I do sometimes think about my past trips to London, Paris, Mexico, but, I think that I will be able to travel more one day. London is a special city for me. In fact, I just adore England. If I can't make it there, then, I'll make do with visiting the lovely NC beaches in my own state.
I did motorcycling touring for many years but sold my last bike about 3 years ago. I know motorcycles are pretty stupid, especially for old guys, but I miss it.

I did some 5 day trips but I always wanted to spend a summer completely circling the US. But, by the time my caregiving is done I'll probably be riding a Geri scooter to the mailbox.
Since doing my family tree has become a part-time job for me, I have found there were certain parts of the U.S. where many had lived their whole life, of which I never had visited.

Same small cities/town keep popping up in my research, so now I am curious. I would like to walk those streets of downtown [if they still exist] where pass relatives [like great-great-great aunts and uncles] might have walked. With the internet I can sometimes find the street address, and what the house/apartment currently looks like [if the home wasn't torn down]. This is just on my Dad's side of the family as they came to the U.S. in the 1700's.

Windy, have you ever read Robert Persig's Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance? It's really not about either; it's about a self discovery trip on a motorcycle across the US.

FF, your genealogy trip is quite interesting, and can be done from the comfort of home, especially in the winter, with a mug of hot chocolate on your desk!

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