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I am so sick and tired of caring for my old cranky sick child like mother. I want to just go and never come back. No help from 5 siblings other than 'hang in '. She cared for us, now it's time to care for her.

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I'm sure many here are changing diapers, feeding, bathing, etc. their parents, you are amazing people. Others who do no such thing label themselves as caretakers in order to justify their actions. They are able to play the roll when needed. My grandmother lived alone in her one story house until she was 94. In all the years I knew her my father either did her grocery shopping or took her with him. She lived in the next town and he visited her often, took her to dr. appts, made sure her bills were paid. In all those years I never ever heard one complaint from him. Make sure your elderly parents aren't being taken advantage of, make sure they aren't keeping secrets.
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634, I never followed this thread when it was originally posted, but I have read through it now and am not seeing anything for you to get so bent out of shape about. The OP is merely stating her own feelings and frustrations about being a caregiver, I'm not really seeing any nasty tirades against her mother or sibs (at least not after you've read some of the "I hate my sibs/parent" threads). Her angst was her reality and she was in pain. Why does that threaten you so much??
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you are right on gladimhere!!! and who cares if she read it!! the truth hurts!
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I'm curious if you are all sharing the caregiving now. Is that what you mean? The fact that someone was a great mom does not obligate her child, or children, to be a hands-on caregiver. I can't imagine anything worse, either as a caregiver ir as an elder, to be stuck in the company of one person, day in and day out, with time to myself.
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Gladimhere, this is all one big lie!!! In fact she WAS a caring Loving Mother! Who did nothing but take care of my sick sister!!! Every one of us took great care of Mom!! This is all a lie! My sister is the one who needs care for
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634, this post is nearly a year old. There are many, many stories like this where one child carries all of the responsibility because siblings, for many reasons, or any excuse, will not assist. IF, and that is a big IF, this is your sibling I sincerely hope you are now offering some help. I doesn't even need to be hands on. Send a sweet gift, pay for a few hours of caregiver, get sib a gift card to go do something fun. And STOP trying to use intimidation as a technique to get sib to stop posting thoughts here.
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Why not just go if it is so bad. Sounds toxic and very unhealthy for the both of you. These should be senior's golden years. I live surrounded by many senior who live alone with help with groceries and dr. appts, all that can be shared. You need to communicate. You would have to clean and fix meals regardless of where you live.
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Letting you know your sister just read this!!!
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joanie...i have to take care of everything in a four bedroom house and my apt in the back. i have to hire people to fix things, finding people that can do the job and affordable is a pain!! i have a brother that lives in the front house with my parents...and he is a dirty slob...and doesn't even change a lite bulb!!! my other brother took the POA, which I am...and the Will...and he hasn't visited my parents for about 8 months now??? OMG...crazy...I so get it!! I'm putting the savings in my name...and spend all income ssi as needed....including my getting out of dodge when I've had enough!!! i found a way out...but ... did take awhile...and I had to be at my wits end...like jumping off a bridge...before i could find a way to deal with all this! hang in there!!
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joanie i hear there are caretakers groups...that would be perfect for you...vent, meet new people in the same place as you and find help!!
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