I take care of my mother in her home with very little help from other members of my family. In fact no help except my son who will once in a while refresh her water or change a tv station. Two days ago I fell while trying to carry my mother's tray of food from one room to another. I bruised my already arthritic hip and lower back. I was given vicodin and told to rest but as you know rest is out of the question. Now my 90 year old mother who has Dementia, COPD, bursitis, is trying to help me with chores but cannot due to not being able to walk or stand for long periods of time. Respite care is a joke even though they are registered through the City, they are only allowed to do certain things. They cannot administer medication or do any of the things a CNA can do. So I just bite the bullet and continue to administer care to mother. Another worry is not having enough money to live on once mom passes. I only receive a small widows pension and it is not enough to really live on independently. I have no family to care for me (son has already told me he has to care for his own family) and brother is too selfish and ego centered to offer any help. He would see me lying in the street and would just keep going. I don't know if there are any senior care homes who offer grants for people like me or what? Does anyone have any ideas who I should contact about living in an inexpensive senior home after mom passes? I only have three months to clean up house and move out. Thank you and God Bless you.