I figured out a good solution to my problems with my grandmother-in-law.
As some of you may know, my gmil is suffering from undiagnosed dementia. Her doctor wont listen to us because gmil is really good at lying. she has healed from her broken ribs, but now has another uti. the 3rd one in 4 months. her occupational therapist helped her bathe twice, and gmil lied to her and said she was bathing regularly. Shes not, she doesnt even wash her hands. she has a colostomy bag, and she doesnt even use gloves anymore to change and clean it. thats why shes getting utis. so no professionals are listening to my husband and i, even though we keep telling them about the problems. So, we decided that we are buying spy cameras. im going to get a pen camera that i can keep on me, with audio included. then, when she has her spells, we will be able to prove what is going on. Last night, she completely forgot who my 2 year old was.i mean, she gets family members mixed up, has a hard time remembering their names, even her children, but she had never jyst completely forgot someone. expessially my daughter. we live with her, and she was talking to her just five minutes before that, so that was a major red flag in my opinion. Just in case anyone else is in a similar situation, with parents lying to their doctors, a spy camera is a good solution. I hate to have to be invasive, but she needs help, and thats the only thing i can do. So things should be getting better once i get the cameras.