It is hard enough to deal with a very ill parent, but when you have a bully in the family who has all the control because ofPOA, it becomes horrible. She makes all the decisions. mother is very confused and can't think straight so it's easy for her to do this. My other sis and I have been abused by this when we try to find out what is going on or make a suggestion or anything. She doesn't answer emails to either of us. She called my other sis "stupid" for sending the doctor a letter saying she is concerned about massive medications effects on our mom who has heart disease. I am very worried about my mother and I tell her what I see and she just pooh-pooh's me, or ignores me. she accuses me of ridiculous things like she sent this email out saing ...mama told the phone off the hook ... did you (meaning me maybe?) have an argument with her? Hey, mama is not well, is irritable and may have some memory issues and so she forgets andputs the phone down. walks away from the pone. or she doesn't put It down right. She is so passive aggression. Mama is really sick and when this is over, I am done with her. I tried for so long and she is just a bully in general. not just to me and sister but to others and to mama. she says mama complains and lies. Uh, I don't think so. mama really is confused ad doesn't remember thing from one minute to the next. if she would just let mama talk, then she would see it. sorry for the rant. just asking if anyone can relate to this? what do you all do? I can't just walk away from mama. and I hate being in thedark about her situation. thanks.