Caring for Dad (86) is getting old already.
My dad has lived with us now for about 9 months. Insist add he and his little dog. I'm 49 married with 2 teenage kids. I know the change is hard on him but he doesn't seem to think it's hard on the rest of us. We cook dinner and he pockets the meats to give to his dog later on top of ice cream every night.he also goes through candy bars like crazy and shares them also with his dog. I have to wash sheets almost daily because he gets chocolate all over them. I've asked him to sit when in the bath room cuz he misses every time so he now uses a jar in his room that I have to empty all day long. If we are lucky he will bath once a week he wears depends but thinks nothing of wearing them for long period of times even when wet. If he can't find something he blames me for moving it even if it falls on the floor and don't hey me started with the TV. If that's not working it's also my fault. Last night he accused me of hurting his dog I'm
The only one that cares for the dog. He is do negative and it's changed the way my kids look at him such is sad they used to love to see papa but not now. I find myself top toeing around just so he won't see me. It's just really sad. I'm the only child do I'm it as far as caregiving goes. He tried living on his own and I would go to his place several times a week until he let some shady people move in with him he thought they were his friends they were leaches I had to kick them out. I just feel lost and feel bad fir my family. He only has a small SS check so I don't think he can go to a facility plus he wouldn't anyway. If I where to tell him
It's not working he'd just pack up and probably live in his car. I guess I'd just like to know if there is anyone out there in the same boat. Sometimes I wake up early just to have a few moments to myself cuz I know when his door opens it all starts over. Lately his dog has needed to go to the bath room during the night and this wakes up myself and my husband cuz dad starts yelling for the dog to come inside. We are both to tired. Anyone in my shoes have any fords of wisdom???