My father has always been difficult to talk to, to work with on anything. He always knows more than anyone else. It gets worse as he gets older. He even gets violent. He has minimal dementia. He would not stay in a home. He qualifies for hospice and my sister and I will be sharing responsibilities over his care simply because neither of us can handle him by ourselves. We're not even sure that he will leave his rural home to move to my sister's home for hospice care. He is becoming unable to care for himself primarily because of extreme pain from an accident that happened years ago. He will be on morphine for the rest of his life. He simply doesn't like nor trust people, including his family. What would you suggest and how would you suggest we carry it out. Neither of us can stand being around him for long. He becomes very abusive.