4:00 AM wake up calls
I can' do this anymore. My father calls me about 5 to 10 times a day. At all hours of the day. Last night it was midnight and then again at 1 AM. Usally cursing and yelling followed by a click because he has hung up on me. I just can't deal with this anymore. This is every night. Not a day goes by that I'm not cursed at and hung up on or called in the middle of the night. I've tried to set boundaries but he doesnt care. He tells me, its all about him. Then when I get mad and yell back he tells me to call him when I'm in a better mood. I go to his house several times a week. To cook or clean or pay his bills. I take him to all his appointments and out to eat several time a week. I have home health that visits 3 times a week and I have hired a aid that comes 3 days a week. This is supposed to give me a break but I end up having to run an errand or go shopping at least once while she's there. Dad calls me everyday. When he gets up, again when he eats (3×s a day), when he poops, after he has read an article in his many magazines. When he take his pills (3×s a day). If the news has something stupid or he doesn't agree with it. Or he's just lonely. I'e tried to get his friends to visit but he ends up hanging up on them or he won' t turn the TV off while they are there. I just can' do this anymore. Yesterday he called at 4 AM and again at 6:30. Day before at 5:30. It goes on and on and on. In the past two weeks he has caught the microwave one fire, let the crockpot pot on 24 hrs 2 times, broke his oxygen machine, lost his hearing aid, crashed the computer, can' turn the TV on 8 times. Phone doesn' work 4 times (but yet he' talking to me). I'e been there everyday except 3 days. Dad was dianozied with a fatal lung disease several months ago. No I don't work. I'm disabled, my husband is retired but works part time. I have to hire someone to clean my house and do yard work. I just want to change my phone and move away. Ive tried talking to him about it he just gets mad. He's like a five year old when things dont goes his way. If I don't answer the phone he panicks and calls my brother, husband or aunt. How can I cut the cord?