I am wondering if I should send APS. It is for my ex-husband in his 50's living with my son who is 28. This must seem like a strange question to ask about younger people. They moved in with my in-laws several years ago, both have since died. They hardly ever leave the house, they don't work. The lawn has not been mowed and is grown up to where you can't see the house. My son has reached out for money to pay electric bill when they get desperate. I think my ex-husband and son are both depressed. The neighbor called me (I live in another state) and told me they had no phone, electricity, internet or food and something had to be done. They got my son to their home so he could call me and I wired him some money to have electricity turned on and get food. I keep offering for my son to live with me, but he won't leave his Dad. They go nowhere and have no visitors. This has been going on a couple of years. I am afraid if I send APS my son will never speak to me again, but I am also afraid this will get worse and that maybe my son won't leave because my ex-husband might be suicidal.