Both have dementia. Dad (89) has Vascular Dementia and Mum (86) has Alzheimer’s. They have been going downhill for quite a few years now. On the days I visit them in the NH, I sometimes find it hard to get out of bed. I feel like my life has been on hold for years. I am 64 now and just want to live a little before it’s too late. However, I feel guilty for even thinking these thoughts.