OK, I'm facing a dilemma.
I told myself I would call Adult Protective Services and try to get a social worker to visit my mom if it happened again, and now that it's happening, I'm not sure I should.
My mom has some dementia, maybe early Alzheimer's (she won't see a specialist to confirm). Now, she keeps her place nice. Her apartment is neat and tidy, and she knows when her bills are due and knows to read her prescriptions to take her BP pill in the a.m., etc.
However, she does have these bad delusional spells. One time she accused me of stealing paper towels from her and had a fit. (I had just set the pack on top of the fridge, which isn't where she would have.) Another time she accused my husband of breaking into her apartment and stealing $500. (She later found it hidden under a rug -- she tends to hide money and forget where she put it.)
Most recently she accused me of taking a bunch of photos of her when she was in her robe and wearing no makeup and "putting them up" on my computer, and people were "laughing at her" and one friend was "shocked" at how bad she looked.
(One, I would never take pictures of a person and share them for all to see if they weren't dressed, etc., and two the friend she's talking about isn't even on Facebook, so there's really no logic there.)
To avoid a fight I said I was leaving and I'd talk to her later. She said if I left then never to contact her again. I told her I was upset about this accusation and needed to go and I would talk to her later when things cooled down a bit. (She's cut off contact with everyone else, so she might do the same with me, who knows?)
But, do I risk alienating her even more by trying to call a social worker in to see her and talk to her? (If I do she might play sane -- doctors, etc., get a different version of her -- and she might even say stuff like I abuse her or steal from her, etc.)
Or do I just let stuff slide for now and hope things right themselves once again and wait for maybe another chance to try and coach her into some kind of treatment?
I really don't know what to do here. I'm kind of at the end of my rope in some ways because I've been dealing with this kind of stuff for a decade.