I feel like my mind is gone. My mother has been an alcoholic for 14 years. I have taken care of her off and on for the past 16 years.
She went to jail for the first time in 2010, 2012, 2015, and 2017. Had a heart attack in 2014 from pretend mice. I came took her back with me out of State. She was released from jail September 11, 2017. While she was there she became combative and was briefly sent basically to a nut house. She has not been officially been diagnosed with dementia according to her. I was only allowed to visit her once during the time in psych hospital. Only one nurse was kind enough to tell me she had moderate to severe dementia. They will not release the records from her stay in August of 2017. When I picked her up from jail they made me sign for her medicines but would not tell me what they were for at the time. Just that if I didn't sign for them they wouldn't give them to me. So I signed. She has seen her general doctor many times. He has increased medicines as needed. I agreed to stay in Indiana to take care of her, while my husband is in S.C. We have a home in both states my husband works a lot to pay for both as we have loans. The reason I didn't take her back to S.C. is because this time was different she was paranoid someone was going to kill me and just didn't think it a good idea to drive 700 plus miles with someone that was acting like her. I thought it would get better. But it didn't my children tried to get me not to pick her up from jail. But I had too. I didn't understand how far gone she is and was.... We make our first visit to a Neurologist on Tuesday if I make it that long. She has trouble swallowing now, can not put a coherent sentence together most of the time, potties on herself and doesn't tell me, talks to people that are not there. I laid her phone off the hook because she was telling me she talks with people on the phone. I see signs of her still being there then they are gone. The other day she didn't recognize me. What questions should I ask the neurologist and has anyone else experienced this kind of rapid decline? I just know if they tell me to take her back home with me Tuesday, I will probably run or just start screaming. I'm at my wits end. My husband keeps threatening to quit his job and come to me. A. We have to pay the bills. We have a home there. He can hear it in my voice that I can't do this anymore! Please help. Crying as I am typing this so please forgive any mistakes in spelling or putting sentences together.