My 91 year old mom has dementia. She's always been the bossy type and its gotten worse. You can talk back to her and tell her to stop what she's doing and she gets mad. She won't use a cane, that the doctor told her to use, because she doesn't need it! She shuffles her feet when she walks and I have to hang on to her. She also will not use her hearing aids! She doesn't need them! She had them for at least 30 years! She lives in an assisted living home but she depends on me to take her places. Tells me I never should have gotten rid of her car (required by the home when she moved in). Today she was at my house and I had the tv on and even turned it up for her but not like she listens to it at her place. She told me I had it at a whisper! Told her if she'd wear her hearing aids, she'd be able to hear it, we can and we had it turned up louder than normal. All she did today was complain about everything. Later this evening she called me and asked if her tv remote needed new batteries because she had to turn it up a lot. I said if the volume went up, she didn't need batteries, she needed to wear the hearing aids. Oh that went over like a lead balloon. She said "never mind" and hung up on me. She is so stubborn. She's got me in a turmoil all the time. I've had a rough last 8 years myself. I was 57 when my husband had a massive stroke and I had to deal with that and him being in a nursing home and watching over his care and all his health issues he had. He passed away in Jan. 2017, just 2 months after mom was diagnosed with dementia. I've gone from 7 years of hell with him to dealing with her. I resent her at times. I know she didn't ask for this disease but nothing I do ever pleases her. Glad to know its not only me that feels like this. She'll outlive me yet. I don't have a life and haven't for over 8 years. She's always been bossy but she's gotten worse. Always telling everyone what to do. When my grandson came home from school, he was eating a couple of small cookies for a snack. She kept telling him to stop eating them because he was going to ruin his supper (not for another 2 hours). We had a couple of cookies before he came home ourselves. Then after daughter and grandson left for his lessons, guess who was eating more cookies? Mom !! I so wanted to tell her to stop eating them that she was going to ruin her supper. I took her to church with me tonight and all she did was complain about things at church. Plants not getting watered, complain about a previous minister to our current minister (other one has been gone for 5 years). It went on and on. Not taking her again on Wednesday nights. She can't follow along in the program. What am I suppose to do? I hate her at times and I hate this disease.