My mother (who was caring for my father) died suddenly at the beginning of May 2018.
I initially took off work for over a month trying to decide if I should move in with him or have him come with me. The former would essentially require that I quit my job - as the commute would be horrible.
As I didn't want to do that, I moved him in with me on a trial basis. I got a woman (who used to watch my friend's mother) to come stay with my father three days a week while I went to work.
He seems okay being in my house. He initially seemed okay with the caregiver. Little by little though, he expressed his dislike for her.
It came to a head yesterday afternoon when I returned from work and she left the house. He said that he didn't want her there any more. He also said... "Get rid of her." "We're fine on our own." "She keeps touching me." She's always snooping into things." "She's was looking for money and I told her you don't keep any money in the house."
I know the touching part was true - as she told me that she was massaging his feet.
Whether the rest is true or not seems irrelevant. If he is that upset/agitated just by her presence, then that is a problem.
The issue will be if he simply doesn't want want HER there or if he doesn't want ANYBODY there.
I give him medication and bring him to the bathroom in the morning and at noon. He also eats his "breakfast" at noon. Aside from that, he basically sleeps during the day.
I could probably go to work in the morning, come home at noon and then go back to work in the afternoon. However, I would be worried that something might happen while I'm gone. Even if I got one of those home monitoring systems where you can access video cameras from your phone, I wouldn't be able to get much work done.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do when someone you're caring for doesn't want anyone to help them but you?