To try to make this as short as possible. My widowed MIL is 76 and has been on dialysis for 5 yrs she has end stage renal failure, heart failure, carotid artery diasease, cataracts (surgery needed) HBP and diabetes for 30 yrs all of which are uncontrolled. She'd had a minor stroke and has had seizures and is a high fall risk. She's on a low sodium renal friendly low sugar diet and finds ways to get foods she can't eat. She's always over on fluids and her BP is very high so her medications get switched alot 16 dif meds. She has 6 kids but none want to help care for her cause she's rude has a bad attitude etc. She's on Medicaid in the long term care program. She gets hospitalized 2-3 times a yr, falls and she's really become a danger to herself. She once pulled out a twix at a drs appt and ate it in front of the nurses. She eats starburst, salty foods, high potassium and phosphorous and they all make her sick and she complains so we're constantly going to doc appts. When we try to control what she eats she yells and curses but her Primary Care doc requires her to have 24hr care so we moved in cause she refuses to leave her home. I left my job and I'm beyond stressed and I cry at night. It's a burden financially, emotionally and health wise. Her son and I can't do it anymore. We're only 40 and 41 w/ 2 kids in college. The social worker from LTC was able to get her into adult day care but the problems got worse now she has access foods she can't have and it's taking a toll on her health. She tells us that we abuse her cause she can eat what she wants and she wants to be independent but at what expense. Our health is worse, our kids worry about us my husband is now on BP meds after a hospital stay her health is on a downward spiral unless I really stay on her but it just creates a hostile environment. Any advice will be great.