I'm not expecting my husband of 46 years to die soon, and sure, I could predecease him, but it bothers me not knowing how to do all the things he does. Actually, it terrifies me. I want to remain independent as long as possible!
Before he retired seven years ago, I paid all the bills. He took that over, and figures out taxes. He knows where to take the cars to be inspected or repaired. He does much of the yard work, can cut back crepe myrtle trees; I do the garden. He can get up on a ladder or roof to check hurricane damage. He paints, can install bathroom tile, a light fixture, fix a leaking pipe. I sewed a tent, down jacket, and nylon backpack for a baby, but am not skilled with tools, plumbing, or electricity. He can install a washer and dryer; I can do laundry (ha). I can pick up groceries, cook a healthy meal, and make kombucha. The list goes on.
What does a recently widowed woman have to know how to do to survive? I can find online articles about funeral, financial, and insurance, but there are things that I believe I could ask my husband to tell me I need to learn to do. It would give him a chance to brag about all he does, and he does a lot!
Some of the readers here have faced bereavement. What do you wish you had bothered to figure out how to do beforehand, instead of having it all crash down on you later?