She went from memory care to hospital (fell and broke her hip) to rehab to nursing home. She couldn't participate in rehab because of Alzheimer's. The nursing home is costing $11,000 a month. I think they are taking good care of her. She is only a 5 minute drive away from me. If I move her to a memory care facility that says they will take her and have the same equipment and level of care ( two person assist with a lift to get her from bed to recliner to wheelchair and back, feeding, bathing, everything) I could save her $3,000 a month, but it would be 30 minutes away from me. I can't imagine her going back home with the amount of care she needs, but I think that's where she would be happiest. Home would probably cost even more than nursing home. She would qualify for Hospice, so I think they would provide equipment at home. I would have to find caregivers who would change her, bathe her, shop, cook, etc. I went through all that management of caregivers years ago and lived with her for 4 years. I can't do it again. What worries me about her care now is that, as she has become more alert over the last week, she is lonely. They tell me that they talk to her and do not simply take care of her physical needs, but in all the time I've visited (at least once a day at different times) I have never observed them offering her company. I work, so can't stay there all the time. I hate thinking about her just sitting there waiting for nothing to happen, but I doubt moving her to memory care would bring her more human contact. It would just save money. It's her money and my feeling is that she's better off close to me. Does this seem reasonable?