I am meeting with my parents attorney, along with my parents to discuss their Medical and financial POA's and advanced directives. I live hundreds of miles away, across many states, and I am anticipating that they will want a local close friend to be their primary POA and for me to be secondary.
Is there really any benefit in this day and age with electronic communications, or is having a local POA important for getting things taken care of in the event my parents fall ill or incapacitated?
This close family friend is also named as co-trustee of my parents trust, and when I asked why, the explanation was because she was local. At a previous visit, the attorney said that as co-trustees of the trust, we could act independently from one another, we didn't need to both agree or both sign everything.
However, I have heard that with POA if we are co-agents, we will have to both sign and agree on everything. So we will have to determine a primary.
I'm not going to lie, I am offended that I wouldn't be chosen as primary unless being local really makes a difference.
I'm already offended that I'm not primary trustee of the trust. I feel that the real reason is because of lack of trust, although I have given no reason. I'm a very responsible adult. They have assured me that it has more to do with distance.
When it comes down to it, I'm going to take care of my parents regardless, because I am that type of person, but I worry that they are making it harder for me!
I have yet to convince them to move to where I live, I've tried.
Any input would be greatly appreciated.