I am the main caregiver for my 77 yr old mother with COPD and severe emphysema. She is on oxygen 24/7 never drove or made friends. After my father died 4 years ago I was working part time every day and driving 45 minutes at least once a week to take mom meals, do shopping, banking, doctors and whatever else needed done. At the time two sisters were " helping" when they could which became few and far between. The house next to me went up for sale and my mother bought it. My sister's were elated and said they would help out. Soon after one sister has become estranged from the family and the other is always too busy. I developed breast cancer and had chemo and radiation, have developed thyroid problems, have high cholesterol am in full blown menopause, have palpitations and arthritis. I have asked nicely, begged, groveled and gotten angry about getting more help. I have driven them away even more. I'm at my wits end. My mother has always been a good mother and I just don't understand how they could abandon her like this. I have been thinking of getting an elder care mediation involved, but think it may be too late. I know they will fight it and not show up at a meeting together. Is there a way to do this?