I knew my 93 yo mothers time living alone was up in late 2012 when I went to her apt. finding her place a disaster, pills open and strewn everywhere, her wearing 2 pairs of pants and a depends hanging out the back..well, how long will this last? We never got along very well and I harbor a lot of resentment due to her constant interfering in my life for as long as I have been alive and her and my fathers horrendous treatment of each other when I was a child which I guess has haunted me to this day.
She was the youngest of 13, the oldest brother born in 1899..most of her sisters and brothers only lived till their 40s and 50s..2 into their 70s... But 1 sister who was 10 years older than her lived till 99, still living on her own till 5 months before her death. All I think about is I can't do this another 6 years. My husband doesn't want to do this another 6 minutes. Neither we nor her have funds for assisted living. So it will have to be applying for Medicaid and a Nursing home, which will be a kicking and screaming event. And doesn't a dr.have to recommend a nursing home? I can't just say, sorry, I'm sick to the situation , or can I? My husband just went off the wall because she insists you are suppose to put the polident on your teeth, not the gum part of the dentures. She comprehends next to nothing we say and argues everything we say.
Are we in this till the end? Other than her mind being gone her health is pretty good. It's just me and my hub doing this alone. We hope to have 2 weeks of respite care set up in the end of July. It will be the best 2 weeks of our lives.